The Art of Giving and Getting Help - Part II - Page 1

Oct 30, 2006

Rajesh Setty

In the first part of the article, we covered the necessary background and ideas for effectively giving help. In this article, we will cover some ideas to effectively get help.

Life would be simple (and too easy, in my opinion) if we could get to the “right” people when we need help and, they, immediately drop whatever they are doing and come to our rescue. Unfortunately, that can only happen in fairy tales or movies. It is far from reality.

So, what can we do to get the help when we need it most? Here is a simple approach to consider:

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Contribute early and frequently. There is one rule that has always helped me and that is “If you want to be successful, please help others to become successful.” Early in your careers (and always) your goal has to be to contribute and be an opportunity to other people. In simple terms, do as many favors as possible as early as possible in your career.

Build your emotional bank account. Everyone knows about the power of reciprocation but rarely do people use it wisely. You give and you get. The order is important and the intention is important too.

You have to give first before you can get. You will "get" for sure but it may not be from the same person to whom you gave. You are building your emotional bank account by giving. You may be able to withdraw from this bank account at a later date. Obviously, you can only withdraw if there are sufficient deposits in the account.

Extend your network – far and wide. With the attitude and approach outlined in the first two items, it should not be hard for you extend your network far and wide. However, building your network and long-term relationships do not happen by accident.

You need to put a conscious effort. Think about the last conference or a networking event that you attended. How many cards did you collect? More importantly, of the cards that you collected, with how many have you followed up and established a relationship?

Your power is directly proportional to your network. It is also not how many people you know but how do you know these people.

How is building a strong network relevant to getting help? The stronger your network, the easier it is to make a request for help.

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